Most people get marriage wrong. That isn't me judging, but rather just telling it like it is. 80% of marriages since 1990 have failed (people who were married after 1990). It doesn't have to be this way. You can chose to have a good marriage.
A step in the right direction would be to listen to John Lanferman's message on marriage from this past Sunday at Jubilee, City Location and live out guidance he has gleaned from Scripture.
To do so, follow this link: http://www.jubileestl.org/current_series.php